Psychotherapy with BDSM/Kinky Folks (3 CE’s)



Product Description

This 3 hour CE course, 50 Shades of Grey in Therapy: Working with BDSM/Kink Sexualities and Communities is a videotaped presentation from June 2015 taken at the Women’s Building in San Francisco. This is an introductory course for psychotherapists of any discipline (psychologists, social workers, marriage and family therapists, licensed professional counselors, etc.). The grievance procedure is included in the online materials.

Keely Kolmes, Psy.D. is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Keely Kolmes, Psy.D. maintains responsibility for this program and its content. This course also provides CE for California based MFT’s, LCSW’s, LPCC’s, and LEP’s. 

This course has no commercial support for the program, sponsor, or instructor and there is no other relationship that could reasonably be construed as a conflict of interest. In addition, there is no commercial support for the content of instruction (e.g., research grants, funding research findings, etc.) that could be construed as a conflict of interest. There is also no commercial support or benefit for endorsement of products (e.g., books, trainings, drugs, etc.)

This course has been developed to help clinicians identify basic cultural concepts created by the BDSM subculture that can positively address issues of concern in providing mental health services.After completing this program, clinicians will be able to:

  1. Explain the distinction between BDSM activities and abuse.
  2. Apply skills and attitudes necessary to support a strong therapeutic alliance after disclosure of BDSM desires and behaviors.
  3. Identify situations where involvement in BDSM behaviors might be contraindicated for clients/patients.


The program is broken into three video segments which you can watch at your own pace. The concepts covered include:

  • Part 1: Introduction: 

Introduction to BDSM
Addendum: Recent Research
History of the BDSM/Kink Community

  • Part 2: BDSM and Psychotherapy

Research on BDSM and Psychotherapy
BDSM vs. Abuse
BDSM and the DSM: Diagnoses and Difficulties

  • Part 3: Focusing on the Clinical

Microaggressions and BDSM
Clinicians, Clinical Issues, and Contraindications

  • Extra Handouts

BDSM Basics and Glossary
BDSM vs. Abuse


Purchase of this video gives you:

  • three downloadable recordings alternating slides with video of the presenter;
  • a 51 page transcript of the entire training, including links to the videos that were shown;
  • the full set of slides in PDF format, one-per-page for easy viewing, and additional other handouts, 134 pages, in full.
  • CE‘s for psychologists and California based MFT’s, LCSW’s, LPCC’s, and LEP’s. 

**Note that purchase gives you five downloads (for download to multiple devices) and the download link will be active for 30 days after purchase. The streaming link will be active for two weeks.

To receive CE‘s, you will be given a link to an online post-test in which you are required to register your name and license. You must pass this post-test at a 75% rate. There will be a minimum of six questions for each CE offered. No partial credit will be provided if your responses fall below 75% on the test.


Keely Kolmes, Psy.D. is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Keely Kolmes, Psy.D. maintains responsibility for this program and its content. This course also provides CE for California based MFT’s, LCSW’s, LPCC’s, and LEP’s. 

The CA BBS accepts continuing education hours from providers approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) for all license types pursuant to Title 16 California Code of Regulations (16CCR) § 1887.4.1(a)(5) &  § 1887.4.3(a)(2).

About the Instructors:

Ryan G. Witherspoon, M.A. is a clinical psychology Ph.D. student at the California School of Professional Psychology at Alliant International University in Los Angeles, as well as a researcher, speaker, and community educator for alternative sexualities and relationships.  He frequently publishes and presents nationally regarding kink/BDSM, consensually non-monogamous relationships, sex-positivity, and other topics.  Ryan’s current research focuses on the intersections of consensual non-monogamy with stigma and resilience.  You can find out more about Ryan’s work via his website at
Richard Sprott received his Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology from UC Berkeley in 1994. His current work researches identity development and health/well-being in people who express alternative sexualities and non-traditional relationships, with a special emphasis on kink/BDSM sexuality, and polyamory or consensual non-monogamy.  These efforts highlight the ways in which stigma, prejudice, minority dynamics, language, identity development and community development all intersect and affect each other.  Richard currently teaches courses in the Department of Human Development and Women’s Studies at California State University, East Bay and graduate and undergraduate level courses at various universities in the Bay Area, including UC Berkeley, the California Institute of Integral Studies, and Holy Names University.

Keely Kolmes, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Oakland, CA. Dr. Kolmes did their dissertation on bias in clinical care towards the BDSM community and has presented on kink to psychologists since 2013. In 2009, Dr. Kolmes founded Bay Area Open Minds, a therapist community for clinicians serving polyamorous, kinky, and gender diverse clients. This non-profit now has nearly 300 clinicians. Dr. Kolmes currently is serving as Chair on the Ethics Committee of the California Psychological Association. They are a member of the 2014 class of the APA Leadership Institute of Women Psychologists. They are also the Council Representative for California Psychological Association at APA 2017 – 2019. Dr. Kolmes has co-authored the 5th revision of Ed Zuckerman’s The Paper Office released in November 2016.

Conflict of Interest Statement:
Please note that there is no known commercial support for this CE program or for the instructors.

Cost & Refund/Cancellation Policy:

This course is currently offered at a price of $30.

Since this is an online product and you gain immediate access to the product, there are no refunds and all sales are final.

If you purchased this item by mistake, please contact me immediately to discuss a refund.

When you purchase this course, you will be taken to a PayPal page which should automatically redirect you back to this store to download your purchase. IF YOU ARE NOT REDIRECTED BACK, rest assured that if you have difficulty navigating back to the store, your receipt will be emailed to you and it includes links to all purchases. 

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Group Purchase or Institutional Purchase?

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