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Print media can be found on this page. My television and web video appearances, can be found here.

Eliza Dumais did a story in COSMOPOLITAN on September 28, 2021 on open relationships and polycules. You can read my contributions here.

My comments about How to take charge of online reviews were published in the APA Monitor in March 2021 in a story by Tory DeAngelis.

Kathi Wolf interviewed me and other psychologists for a Washington Blade story on managing the holidays as a queer person. Bah, humbug! Pandemic exacerbates holiday blues.

Zara Greebaum wrote a story for the American Psychological Association in February 2020 called Should practicing psychologists use dating apps? in which I was quoted.

In October of 2019, Kristen Fischer wrote a piece on “sadfishing” when teens post distressing things on social media. I was quoted in this piece, Why Teens Turn to “Sadfishing” on Social Media.

Amelia Tate wrote a piece in September of 2019 on therapists getting bad online reviews. She quoted me and talked about Getting Better in What Happens When Therapists Get Bad Online Reviews.

In September, 2019, The Columbian quoted me in another piece about how people who post selfies are percieved: Study shows it’s time for selfie-reflection.

In August of 2019, I was quoted in a piece by Christine Clarridge about research that people who post selfies are seen as less likeable, in The Seattle Times. I offered input on keeping your balance on social media.

In April, 2019, my social media policy was discussed in this article on How Technology Helps Psychotherapists.

In March, 2019, Sarah DiGiulio at NBC News talked to me and other mental health professionals about How to be better at online dating, according to psychology.

Rachel Kramer Bussell sought to understand her shift from kinky desires to more vanilla ones in I Suddenly Stopped Being Kinky and I’m not sure why in March of 2019. She spoke with me and other experts.

Dating Advice interviewed me about my work and wrote up a story about my work with the broad range of gender and sexual expression.

 Jamie Ducharme of TIME interviewed me, Dr. Helen Fisher, and Dr. Trent Petrie on How to Use Dating Apps Without Hurting Your Mental Health, According to Experts.

In December of 2017, Kristin Wong wrote a piece in The Cut on “How to Find a Therapist,” and she quoted my New York Times Oped. 


In October of 2017, Rebecca Clay interviewed me for an article for psychologists using LinkedIn: Running start… to a great career: Using LinkedIn effectively and ethically.

Refinery29 did a story in June 2017 about spanking and safe impact play. ZOË LIGON wanted to interview a psychologist about safety and I provided some input. Enjoy being spanked? Here’s what you need to know about impact play. 

monitorShould You Use an App to Help that Client? Amy Novotney interviewed me in her November 2016 exploration of what psychologists need to know about the limitations and validity of apps. From the November 16 edition of the APA Monitor.

monitor5 Ways to Avoid Malpractice. Amy Novotney’s March 2016 piece in the March APA Monitor on how clinicians can manage their risk in practice. My social media policy is mentioned in item #2.

Eleanor Feldman Barbera, Ph.D. interviewed me for her February 2016 article on social media ethics in long term care facilities. “Just a picture of her butt,” An analysis, for McKnight’s.

I add a couple of comments on playing safely when dating online in Haley Falco’s February 2016 post There are Plenty of Fish in the Online World of Dating on Humber News.

monitorThe February 2016 APA Monitor published an article for Early Career Psychologists on How to Put Yourself Out There when establishing a web presence. They quoted me and two other psychologists.

monitorThe APA Monitor did a feature article on me and several other psychologists called #psychology: Giving Psychology Away on Social Media in January of 2016. You can read the full digital version here.

imgresEve Peyser on Buzzfeed wrote an article in December of 2015 called My Therapist Wrote my Breakup Text. She poses interesting questions about how social media interactions are changing the content of what we do with clients in session. She asked me some questions about internet addiction and how I respond to people who are jealous of their friends’ online representation of their lives.

imgres-1Greta Kaul wrote an article in the SF Chronicle in May of 2015: 2-star therapist? Why online reviews give psychiatrists anxiety. It is about the challenges with online review sites for psychotherapists. She interviewed me about my Getting Better product, an ethical solution that helps clinicians get feedback and helps consumers find the information they want about your practice.

The Internet of Things Can Automate Romance. Is that Bad? Molly McHugh explores in WIRED how digital reminders and tech monitoring can affect relationships and whether these apps can actually blunt us to our own sensitivity to our partners. This article is from May of 2015.

Ravages of Revenge Porn Spur Federal Crime Push. Elizabeth Zwerling reports on revenge porn and the challenge that some states aren’t seeing it as a crime. I spoke about the study we did at Without My Consent on online harassment and talked about the emotional effects of online harassment.

imgres-1  Shades of Grey’s Kink Scenes Whipping Up a Frenzy? Not in SF. Carolyn Zinko wrote a  piece for the SF Chronicle on how 50 Shades is opening some people up to kink, but where  to really go if you want to learn more about BDSM. Some quotes from me on dispelling the myths that kink is all about pain play.

imgres50 Shades of Care: Why Doctors Need to Pay More Attention to Their Kinky Patients. This Quartz piece written by Christy Duan spoke with a number of healthcare providers and kinky patients about their experiences in the doctor’s office and why health care providers need to learn more about kink.


Coming out Kinky to Your Doctor, in Black and Blue is a piece written by Heather Boerner in The Daily Beast. She writes about the need for kinky people to have access to kink-informed health care providers and quotes me, along with Dr. Charles Moser and other TASHRA Board members.


Dealing with Improper Contact. Anna Miller’s article on psychologists being stalked by their patients includes my comments on research I did with Dr. Dan Taube on psychotherapy clients looking up their clinicians’ information online.

monitor  One Star Therapy? Jamie Chamberlain’s April 2014 APA Monitor article on psychotherapists’ being stung by online reviews.

imgres-91Beware the Overshare. Jamie Chamberlain’s January 2014 APA gradpsych article on the dangers of tweeting or blogging as a psychotherapist.


images   Tabitha Lasley of UK Marie Claire quoted me in her June 2013 piece about revenge porn and the ugly culture of online payback. Tabitha Lasley, Revenge is a Dish Best Served . . . Online MARIE CLAIRE, 65 (June 2013).

imgres-1I was a guest on HuffPost Live in a segment on whether psychotherapists should set their clients up with other potential romantic partners.

BBC News did a an episode of BBC Click on Information Overload in which I was interviewed.


My New York Times Op-Ed on the problems of online review sites for mental health professionals and their clients. The Wrong Kind of Talk TherapyThe New York Times, March 18, 2011.

Is Social Media Destroying Your Self-Esteem? is an interesting article by J.M. Henderson on Forbes on whether aspirational messages seen by women on social media sites have a negative effect on their psyche. I was interviewed for this piece on associated research and how to counter negative messages.
Google and Facebook raise new issues for therapists and their clients, March 30, 2010. Washington Post. I am quoted in article by Dana Scarton which offers a wonderful overview of the issues raised for therapists on the Internet.

Clinician’s Corner: Your Editor Interviews Keely Kolmes, Psy.D. about “Kink”, Polyamorous Relationships and the “Bay Area Open Minds” Organization. San Francisco Psychological Association’s Summer Newsletter.

Social Media: What’s Your Policy? APA’s Good Practice Magazine did a what’s your policy?in which they asked me questions about creating a social media policy and what issues related to social media I think practicing psychologists will be grappling with in the future.

A Psychotherapists Guide to Facebook and Twitter: Why Psychotherapists Should Give a Tweet! My article on how social media can be used as a professional tool, and potential pitfalls.

The Good Vibrations Online Magazine did an interview with me about Open Minds, the group I started for psychotherapists affirming of sexual and gender diversity.


Julie Hanks, MSW, LCSW, BCD wrote a three-part series on Social Media Ethics over on PsychCentral, and she mentions my work in a couple of the postings, including one on Top 3 Ethics Gurus You Should Be Following. I’m honored.

Tech’s Relationship with Depression, Suicide, and Asperger’s. December 29, 2011. Violet Blue interviewed me for her ZDNet post on how how people in tech culture may have additional pressures and lifestyles that may exacerbate existing mental health issues. This article provides resources in case you or someone you care about may be suffering from depression or at risk for suicide.

Mental HealthCare & Social Media Policy. November 28, 2011 issue of Psychiatry Weekly. I was interviewed about online ethics, social media policies, and my research on client/therapist interactions on the Internet.

Sacramento Business Journal quoted me in a story about the merits of web-based psychotherapy. November 18, 2011.

What can you do about damaging online reviews? August 2011 issue of Psychotherapy Finances includes my comments on surviving a negative review on sites like Yelp.

Developing a social media ethics policy. Dr. Frederic Reamer wrote an Eye on Ethics article on Social Work Today linking to my social media policy and covering the major points of my policy in his advice to social workers wanting to develop their own.

Rep. Weiner’s Dick, His Hot Wife, And Tweet Cheats. Violet Blue reprints our July 2008 interview on whether cybersex, texting, and other tech related sexual encounters are “real,” in light of recent news events.

Unhappy? There’s an app for that. June 2011 APA Monitor on Psychology article about apps that practitioners use on the Smart phones to help their clinical work.


“Karaoke Grandma’s” Criminal Conviction: Could File-Sharing Be A Mental Illness? June 1, 2011 ZDNet story by Violet Blue on a woman convicted of file sharing and sentenced to cognitive therapy sessions for hoarding behavior.

Building a Practice in a Digital World. May/June 2011 issue of Social Work Today. Christina Reardon, MSW, LSW explores the benefits and risks of attracting clients in cyberspace.

Clients, Connections, and Social Media. Spring, 2011. Laura Johnson’s article in the Annals of Psychotherapy and Integrative Health.

Analysis: California’s Online Impersonation Law, Effective January 1. December 30, 2010. Violet Blue writes about SB 1411 and includes my comments on the psychological harm to victims of online impersonation.

Questions About Accuser Follow Sex Slave Case. October 23, 2010. Associated Press article on a federal case involving alleged kidnapping and torture of a female victim. I provided commentary on the difference between consensual BDSM and violent, criminal, and non-consensual behaviors.

Follow the leaders. September, 2010 gradPSYCH Magazine article by Jamie Chamberlin on the top psychology people on Twitter.

How to clean up your online record. July, 2010 gradPSYCH Magazine article by Jared C. Clark on how to keep your Internet presence focused on your professional achievements and not your personal life.

Is it ever OK for a therapist to snoop on clients online? May, 2010 gradPSYCH Magazine piece by Jamie Chamberlin on cases when Google or Facebook searches on clients may or may not be warranted.

Social Media Psych – An Interview with Dr. Keely Kolmes. April 1, 2010. Interview with me about my use of Social Media and the development of my Social Media Policy. By Will Baum, LCSW on Where the Client Is: Building a Better Private Practice.

Google and Facebook, Therapists and Clients. PsychCentral posting on the Washington Post article by Dana Scarton and my Social Media Policy with extensive comments by clinicians and clients.

MySpace is your space, Winter 2009/10. CrossCurrents, The Journal of Addiction and Mental Health did a special issue on The Digital Couch and included my recommendations for being an online-savvy practitioner and avoiding ethical dilemmas online. [Printable pdf.]

The Sex Doctor is Out, December 3, 2009. I am quoted in this SF Chronicle column by Violet Blue on how to find a good doctor or therapist who you can talk to about sex and the questions to ask when you are interviewing potential therapists.

Folsom Street Fair: More Than Just Kink and Curiosity, Winter, 2009. Article written by Josie Valderrama in The Voice. My experience as a graduate student researching therapist bias towards BDSM and the need for better education, mentoring and support for students wanting to work with kink and poly identified clients.

Top Ten Psych Tweeps, June 29, 2009. Psych Central post by Sandra Kiume. Blog post on the top ten mental health microbloggers on Twitter. I was honored to be given the number one spot on the list.

Plugging in to Social Networks [pdf], Spring/Summer 2009. Good Practice article, published by American Psychological Association’s APA, pp. 8-12. I am quoted in this article about psychologists who use social networks in their psychology practice.


Panel Recap: Therapy 2.0: Mental Health for Geeks, March 19, 2009, by Rebecca Farr for The Austin Chronicle in their SXSW Interactive 2009 coverage.

Keely Kolmes Soothes Geek Hearts: An Interview on Mental Health 2.0, March, 9, 2009, by Melissa Gira on Sexerati.

Is Cybersex Cheating? Violet Blue investigates the outer limits of cybersex and monogamy, July 17, 2008. I am quoted in this SF Chronicle piece by Violet Blue. The full interview is available on Violet Blue’s blog.

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