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  1. Tweets that mention On the Difference Between Therapy and Giving Advice | Dr. Keely Kolmes --
    January 19, 2010 @ 8:19 pm

    […] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Dr. Keely Kolmes, Dr. Kathleen Young. Dr. Kathleen Young said: RT @drkkolmes: My new blog post On the Difference Between Therapy and Giving Advice […]


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    January 19, 2010 @ 8:43 pm

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    This post was mentioned on Twitter by drkkolmes: My new blog post On the Difference Between Therapy and Giving Advice


  3. Brian
    December 19, 2015 @ 10:10 am

    Great article! I would also add that some people are not familiar with the therapy process. Perhaps some think it’s similar to making an appointment with a medical doctor, expecting a diagnosis, then given a list of things to do or have a procedure done to them, in order to feel better.


  4. First GID Therapist Appointment...What Do I Do? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out
    February 3, 2016 @ 10:25 pm

    […] be wary of any therapist that actually tries to give you advice or tells you what you should do, without good reason. As the therapist in the link mentions, this isn't about going somewhere to "be fixed", […]


  5. st topper
    January 26, 2018 @ 4:09 pm

    I have never asked a therapist for advice. Why would someone think a therapist knows more than they do? I never found therapists to be all that bright or to suggest things I did not already know about. I found the therapist talking to be useless. I only found benefit from venting about a dying loved one.


  6. Bethany Birchridge
    April 11, 2018 @ 3:21 pm

    I like that you mentioned that giving frequent anecdotes is not exactly a for of therapy. My friend wants to be a psychologist and possibly a therapist. I’ll share these tips with him so that he can being to prepare.


  7. Silas Knight
    April 15, 2019 @ 7:13 pm

    I love learning more about what therapy is and does. I like how you said that a therapist doesn’t tell you what to do. That’s something I can do without any training! But getting professional help means a lot more than that, as you’ve alluded to.


  8. Dean Phillips
    June 19, 2019 @ 4:08 pm

    I really like how you said that therapy is a place of self-discovery. My sister has been struggling with anxiety and depression for the entirety of her adult life. It might be beneficial for her to seek therapy so that she can figure out how to help herself.


  9. What Can I Expect If I’m Seeing a Therapist for the First Time? | MEL Magazine
    September 30, 2019 @ 4:37 pm

    […] own decisions. “Therapy is a place to explore your feelings and learn about yourself,” writes Keely Holmes, a psychologist in California. “It’s a place of self-discovery. It’s a place to find out how […]


  10. Chris Pederson
    March 31, 2021 @ 10:21 pm

    Thanks for explaining how therapy is about exploring your feelings. Some people just want someone to talk to. However, I think that they need to open up if they really want to change their lives.


  11. Mia Evans
    June 11, 2021 @ 1:41 am

    I like that you pointed out that therapy is a place where you explore your feelings and learn about yourself instead of hearing advice. I hope that I find a psychologist who really practices this to help my sister improve. It’s because she has been struggling ever since her toxic relationship ended, and she needs help to stand on her own again.


  12. Rick Jones
    December 15, 2021 @ 7:24 pm

    Thanks for explaining that psychotherapy is more than just giving advice. Some people think that is all it is. But the reality of the situation is that therapy is much more helpful.


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